Heart of the Handshake

On the farm there are sound principles that you learn in life, some of these maxims of life are in my rules, others are simply rules of thumb taught to each generation. It would be wrong, in my humble opinion, to not pass some of this knowledge on to the public.

One such kind of of lesson I have seen is the difference between a handshake and a contract. It’s a part of the rural culture and honesty of a farmer, handshakes are a matter of honor, it is built on trust. A contract is an agreement based on mistrust, protection of your interests in case either side doesn’t hold up to their side of the agreement.


Classic Handshake – Source ljworld.com

People have called my father naive at times for this attitude. However, for that trusting honesty he is liked in his business and respected. Remember that Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” When you offer trust, though some take advantage, the majority of people will trust you as far as you trust them.

The handshake started since early times, it’s believed that it was meant to convey that you had no hidden weapons, again, trust and respect. Martial artists discourage shaking hands unless you genuinely trust the person, the ability to manipulate the arm too easy in a handshake.

Remember the old saying, “Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.” It’s my preference to trust people, I’d rather a handshake than a contract. If I don’t trust them, why am I doing business with them?


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